Missionary Disciples | April 25

Did you know?
Why is St. Mark’s gospel identified with a lion, Luke’s with a oxen, Matthew’s with a person, and John’s with an eagle?

Go to the opening lines of each gospel and there you will find the answer. Mark’s gospel begins with John the Baptist in the desert where his voice is like a lion’s roar; Luke’s gospel begins with Zachariah in the temple offering sacrifice (an oxen); Matthew’s gospel begins with Jesus’ lineage (listing of people); John’s gospel begins with “in the beginning” thus he begins with a lofty prologue and rises (like an eagle) to pierce the mysteries of God.

Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

Evangelization invites people to experience the gradual and lifelong process of conversion: to draw all people into a deeper relationship with God, to participate in the sacramental life of the Church and to develop a mature conscience. (p. 12)

A God who hears his people retreat
Two separate options: May 19th or May 20th

Join parish leaders from across the diocese as we take a page out of the Book of Ezra that will inspire us to listen and create a space to share our joy and lament while we seek to rebuild and renew the Church in the Diocese of Buffalo. This free retreat is being offered in two locations: Our Lady of Peace in Clarence and St. Mary’s in Arcade.

The retreat will have 4 parts:

  • Part 1: A People Cry Unto Their God.
  • Part 2: A God Who Comes To His People
  • Part 3: A God Who Empowers His People
  • Part 4: A God Who Inspires His People

Click here to learn more and how to register for this special event.

Please advertise and share with anyone you feel would benefit from this unique experience.

Radical Hospitality Videos

“Radical hospitality is hospitality that goes beyond being friendly; it is welcoming guests with a warmth, openness, and authenticity that significantly exceeds expectations. It is intentional hospitality that surprises and delights people by making them feel noticed, giving them personal attention, and providing excellent follow-through. It is hospitality that makes guests feel so welcome they want to return again and again. Radical Hospitality is the easiest way to pursue growth.” (Gentile and Nixon)

Take time to watch these 3 short videos on Radical Hospitality (RH) from Rebuilt

  • Video 1: Belonging Happens First, Not Last. What does Disney Land and Chick-fil-A, have in common? Radical Hospitality. (10 min. video)
  • Video 2: Not a Committee but a Discipleship Experience. RH deepens our baptismal call to ministry. It’s more than just a nice nod of greeting. (10 min. video)
  • Video 3: Layers of Hospitality and What They Look Like. From the parking lot to the Liturgy, from baptism to the funeral, from stranger to friend – these are all few of the many layers of radical hospitality. (10 min. video)

To watch one or all of the videos click here: Radical Hospitality video 1, 2 and 3

Pentecost Sunday
May 28: Simple Suggestions to Celebrate the Day

After Easter, what could be more exciting than the feast of Pentecost. This is the day we celebrate the explosion of the Spirit upon the world. Not only the birthday of the Church but the day when we are reminded that the name “Christian” means “anointed”, that is, to live as missionary disciples. It is our day and Church voices should be raised all over the diocese.

  • Put a red ribbon at the end of each pew.
  • Encourage all those who come to Mass to wear something red. For those who do not wear red, give them a small red ribbon to pin on.
  • Read the petitions in different languages.
  • Invite parishioners to wear clothing that reflect their heritage.
  • Pray the Our Father in different languages all at the same time.
  • Give out a red balloon to each family and ask them to attach to the outside of their home as a sign to the community that this house is filled with the Holy Spirit.
  • Have a potluck supper with dishes from different countries.
  • List the 7 gifts of the Holy Spirit on sheets of paper, cut them out and invite people to pick one as they leave Church. (wisdom, understanding, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, knowledge, piety (devotion) and fear of the Lord (honor, respect).
  • Have a birthday cake for the Church’s beginnings.

Want to host a workshop?
Do You Hear What I Hear is an advent event to help people understand the richness of Christmas using Christmas Carols. This workshop trains people to put this on in their Family of Parishes. I would like to offer this in late Spring. If you would like to host this workshop please contact me and we will set up a date. Lalff2@buffalodiocese.org.

LITE & Alpha Information

Family 4: St. Patrick, Randolph, St. James, Jamestown; Sacred Heart, Lakewood; and Holy Apostles, Jamestown started LITE on Sat. April 22. The remaining weeks are April 29, May 6, 13 and 20 at 9:00 AM to 10:30 AM at St. James Church Hall, Jamestown. For more information contact Renee Sparry srtsperry@verizon.net. All are invited to attend. (on a personal note, I attended the first session on April 22 and was very impressed with the time and attention given to make this morning of reflection such a great success.) This is the video that the FOP’s put out advertising the LITE.

Upcoming Workshop for Life in the Eucharist.
Saturday June 3, St. Joseph’s School in Batavia. 9:00 – 1:00. More details to follow.

Plan on Starting Alpha the week of September 17
We encourage all parishes to consider doing Alpha in the Fall starting the week of September 17. As you know Alpha is an 11-week process with an additional 3 sessions that are conducted “away from the Parish”. The Alpha national office will be coming to Buffalo Saturday, Nov. 4 to conduct these 4 additional sessions which are based on the Holy Spirit. All Family of Parishes that are doing Alpha at this time will be invited to participate in this special gathering. The location has not yet been determined.

Family 25: The Three Sisters of the Foothills (Holy Name of Mary, Ellicottville, St. Philomena, Franklinville and Our Lady of Peace, Salamanca) began their 11-week Alpha program on Monday, April 17. They meet from 6:30 – 8:45 PM. Please keep them in your prayers. For more information contact Deacon Mark Hooper 716-627-4566 pilgrim333@aol.com. All are invited to attend. 


While I was deciding which oat bran cereal to eat this morning,
you were searching the ground for leftover grains from the passing wheat truck.
While I was jogging at the health center,
you were working in the wealthy landowner’s field under a scorching sun.
While I was choosing between diet and regular soda,
your parched lips were yearning for a sip of clean water.
While I complained about the poor service in the gourmet restaurant,
you were gratefully eating a bowl of rice.
While I poured my “fresh and better” detergent into the washing machine,
you stood in the river with your bundle of clothes.
While I read the newspaper and drank my cup of steaming coffee,
you walked the long, dusty miles to a crowded schoolroom to learn how to read.
While I scanned the ads for a bargain on an extra piece of clothing,
you woke up and put on the same shirt and pants that you have worn for many months.
While I built a fourteen-room house for the three of us,
your family of ten found shelter in a one-room hut.
My brothers and sisters, forgive me for my arrogance and my indifference.
Forgive me for not doing my part to change the unjust systems
that keep you suffering and impoverished.
I offer you my promise to become more aware of your situation
and to change my lifestyle as I work for the transformation of our world.”

(Taken from Out of the Ordinary 2000 by Joyce Rupp.)

Living as Missionary Disciples | March 21, 2023

Practical Ways to Make your Parish Better - empty your own trash can!

Ought we not, in the face of so many daunting challenges, adapt a humbler, simpler, and more missional approach to our service in the parish. Pope Francis has already effectively communicated this message in a powerful way. His visible simplicity is changing people’s hearts. We can follow his example in our parishes. Who empties your trash can? When we are willing to humble ourselves in small tasks, we will see that God will exalt our ministry in big ways. (Tools for Rebuilding)

Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

Conversion is the moment in which a person’s life is reoriented to Christ, when he or she – by grace – enters into a relationship with Christ and thus enters into a relationship with the community of believers, the Church. (pg. 11)

The American Church – A quick review:


  • 1950: Northeast: 46% of Parishes
  • 2017: Northeast: 24% of Parishes

Catholic Marriages in the U.S.

  • 1970: 426,309
  • 2018: 143,082

Infant Baptism in the U.S.

  • 1970: 1,089,000
  • 2018: 615,119

Elements that attract parishioners to a parish:

  • 68% – welcoming spirit
  • 64% – sense of belonging
  • 62% – quality of preaching
  • 60% – quality of liturgy 

For a fuller picture of the U.S. Church click here.

The Diocese of Buffalo – A quick review:

This is taken from a 30-minute video entitled: Trending Data. It was put out by the Road to Renewal.
Diocesan Wide Past Trends

Practicing Households
2012: 130,000 • 2021: 90,000

Contributing Households
2012: 118,000 • 2021: 70,000

Average weekend Mass attendance
2012: 155,000 • 2021: 60,000

2012: 4,000 • 2021: 2,100

Number enrolled in Rel. Education
2012: 32,000 • 2021: 10,000

 This video (Trending Data) could be viewed and discussed in your family of parishes. It will help them to understand the need for Renewal and what the Road to Renewal hopes to accomplish in the diocese through your Family of Parishes. It will lead you through past and future trends.

In this video you will:
  • See the various changes in parish and diocesan life from 2012 – 2021.
  • Look at 2 Families of Parishes (7 and 20) and analyze numbers of parishioners, contribution levels, percentage of young people in relation to the older population, etc.
  • Discuss the importance of passing on the Faith to the younger generation.
  • Understand how the finances of the parish impact the Diocese.
  • Clarify the priestly assignments in the Road to Renewal, comparing the single pastor model and the solidum model.
  • The timeline for the Road to Renewal.
  • Share the spiritual component of the Road to Renewal.
  • And more . . .

Easter Suggestions

Practice radical hospitality: A lot of inactive Catholics come to church on Easter Sunday. Don’t miss this opportunity. Here are 2 suggested handouts as people leave church:

Easter Water

Give out small plastic containers of the Easter water. (You can use old medicine bottles.) On each bottle put: an address label with the message: “May this Easter water remind you of your baptism. Daily bless yourself with this holy water.” (name of parish, website, phone number)

Flower Seeds

Hand out Butterfly seeds. (these could also be used for Mother’s Day) Possible message on seed packet: The seed is the word of God. The soil is you. Receive this seed with a desire to grow in the Lord.

Alpha News

Questions about Alpha?

The national Alpha office will be offering a zoom meeting on Tuesday, March 28 at 11:00 AM and repeated at 7:00 PM. Each session will last around 30 minutes. It will be an overall orientation of Alpha as well as a Q & A session. Registration is needed (Please click on “RSVP REQUESTED” first).


Saturday, March 25, 2023

Life in the Eucharist

Comments from those doing LITE during Lent:

  • “Wow best Lenten program that I can remember in all my years of ministry! The laity have been inspiring indeed and have strengthened my faith and ministry.” – Pastor
  • “I was so amazed at the number of people present when I walked into the Church. I haven’t seen it that full in a long time.” – Parishioner
  • “We had 130 the first week and 140 the second. People were still talking about it days later.” – Pastor

Learn how you can do Life in the Eucharist by attending the training session on Sat. March 25 at Annunciation in Elma. There’s still time to register. Click here to learn more about LITE and you will also find the link to register.

Around the Diocese

  • March 22 – Theology on Tap. 7:00 pm at Hamburg Brewing Company. Topic: Your Conversion is your Faith.
  • April 12 – Inclusive Easter Mass for people with special needs. St. Bernadette Church starting at 7:00 pm

Holy Week Prayer


Lord, Jesus Christ, You became human and took on the realities of humanity in our world. During Your life on earth, You gave hope, perspective and salvation to many. Your words are challenging, uplifting, encouraging and guiding. At the end of your earthly life here in our world, You took upon yourself all suffering and made the cross a sign of hope. At this time when the whole world is suffering, when people are isolated and left to themselves, when people mourn for their loved ones, where people are sacrificing their physical and psychological strength to help others, we pray in solidarity and entrust ourselves to You. Amen.

Adapted from prayers by Sister Ulrike M., SDS – Austria

Living as Missionary Disciples | March

Please share this newsletter with anyone else who may benefit from its content. If you would like any additional information Sister Louise Alff’s contact information is below.

Why someone became a Catholic

the Power of the Cross

Edith Stein (St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross). Born in 1891 in Germany, she grew up in a devout Jewish family. As a teenager, she abandoned her faith and considered herself an atheist. She pursued a career in philosophy, which led to her quest for truth. She was drawn to the mystery of the cross. “It was then that I first encountered the cross and the divine strength which it inspires in those who bear it. My unbelief was shattered, Judaism paled, and Christ streamed out upon me.” She converted to Catholicism in 1922. In 1935 she entered the Carmelite order. On Aug. 9, 1942 she was killed in a Nazi concentration camp. (Taken from A Century of Catholic Converts, Lorene Hanley Duquin)

Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

Social justice and direct service opportunities can be powerful experiences that lead people to intimacy with Christ.  (pg. 11)

How to cope with change when parishes cluster 

(Our Sunday Visitor – Fr Robert J. Hater)

  • Maintain hope in changing times.
  • Recognize that change is difficult.
  • Realize that changes cannot be solved by reason alone.
  • Recognize that paradigm shifts take time to achieve.
  • Create a trusting climate where parishioners believe that their opinion is important.
  • Acknowledge that what is happening occurs within the framework of God’s designs.
  • Be patient with those who cannot immediately recognize that change is inevitable.
  • Focus pastoral efforts on the domestic church and the call to missionary discipleship.
  • Evangelization, catechesis and work for justice are essential aspects of parish ministry.
  • Prioritize the importance of Mass and the sacraments. 

The number of parishes in the U.S. without a resident priest pastor: 
2020 – 3,544. 

For full article

Leading Renewal in small parishes (taken from Divine Renovation)

Renewal in a small parish is not the same as a big parish. Small staffs, little resources, and smaller congregations can sometimes be discouraging for those who desire to see radical change. The truth is you don’t need to be in a huge, urban parish to make your church a place of life and transformation where people can come to know and love Jesus and encounter him in the sacraments. Four points to consider:

Ask: “Do I really believe God wants to work in my parish and can use my parish to impact the community?”

God can do anything! The belief that God can’t work in your parish reflects less of what you believe about your parish, and more of what you believe about God. If you’re thinking of renewal as a hobby or experiment, you probably won’t see much change. Ask God for a big vision and conviction about what is possible in your parish. Don’t ask “how big is my parish? ” But instead, “what is the direction of my parish?”

Vision: No matter the size of your parish, you must take the time to hash out a vision, which is a picture of a preferred future. Where do you want to lead people? What could be? What are the dreams of your parish and your ministry?

Leaders: Good leaders are necessary to identify and raise up. Begin praying that God shows you the people and who God wants to call.

Key Principals: The 3 main keys to renewal are the same no matter your size, location, or how much money you have: Primacy of Evangelization; Best of Leadership; Power of the Holy Spirit.


Family of Parish Ideas:

  • Each Sunday, at the universal prayers, pray for one of the families in the diocese. Mention the family number and the parishes within that Family. It will be a wonderful sign of unity among the diocese. 
  • Easter is coming – other than Christmas, Easter has many guests in your parishes. Prepare your congregations now to welcome all in a radical way. For the importance of this read: For heaven’s sake, say hi to new parishioners.
  • Pray this petition every week: For those who are struggling to believe in God, for those who have felt disappointed by or excluded from the Catholic Church, for those seeking God with sincere hearts, and for those looking to deepen their relationship with Jesus, that all may find a welcome home here at [church name], let us pray to the Lord.

Lenten Message from Pope Francis

Fast from hurting words and say kind words.
Fast from sadness and be filled with gratitude.
Fast from anger and be filled with patience.
Fast from pessimism and be filled with hope.
Fast from worries and have trust in God.
Fast from complaints and contemplate simplicity.
Fast from pressures and be prayerful.
Fast from bitterness and fill your hearts with joy.
Fast from selfishness and be compassionate to others.
Fast from grudges and be reconciled.
Fast from words and be silent so you can listen.

Living as Missionary Disciples | Feb 8, 2023

Josephine Bakhita 
Slave to Saint

Bakhita (which means fortunate) was born in South Sudan. At seven she was kidnapped and sold into slavery. After being resold several times she eventually landed in Italy. Exposed to the teaching of the Catholic Church she requested baptism and took the name Josephine. Since in Italy slavery was illegal, she was finally freed from her master in 1890. “She who worked under many masters was finally happy to address God as master and carry out everything that she believed to be God’s will for her.” She was canonized in 2000. Josephine Bakhita is the patron saint for all those caught up in human trafficking.

Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

The Eucharist is the most intimate way in which Jesus Christ is present to us because he himself is the sacrament. He is fully present in the Eucharist. By participating in the Mass, each one of us has the opportunity to encounter Jesus Christ in the most profound way possible. (pg. 10)

When They Come, What Makes them Stay?

Our Churches are full on Ash Wednesday but will they be full the following Sunday? What are you doing now to make Ash Wednesday a real encounter with Christ for those who enter your doors. Here are three valuable Lenten resources:


Life in the Eucharist

Life in the Eucharist (LITE) is a 5 session retreat experience to empower Catholics to deepen their personal and communal relationship with Jesus Christ. It has 5 specific themes that explores the Eucharistic mystery. The 5 themes are: Nourishment, Reconciliation, Transformation, Abiding Presence and Mission. Through the Eucharist, Jesus invites us to a deep experience of all of these aspects. Life in the Eucharist is an excellent way to unite your Family of Parishes (FoP) in a deeply spiritual and communal experience. Therefore, every FoP is expected to offer a Life in the Eucharist retreat.

To learn more about LITE attend the workshop click here.

Scheduled Life in the Eucharist Retreats

  • Family #14 (Silver Springs, East Bethany, Perry, Pavilion, Warsaw). Saturdays (Feb. 25, Mar. 4, 11, 18, and 25). 10:00 – 11:30 AM. They will be rotating the location within the FoP. See flyer for details.
  • Family #31 (South Buffalo) will be offering LITE on the Wednesdays of Lent (1, 8, 15, 22, 29) at 6:30 PM. They will be rotating the location within the FoP. See flyer for details.


ALPHA | Invitation to Launch in your parish the week of September 17

We hope that every Family of Parishes will consider doing Alpha in the Fall of 2023. Attached is a flyer that explains Alpha more fully. In the upcoming newsletter you will be hearing about the many ways to learn more about Alpha. As a remote preparation, we (the Alpha national staff and anyone from our diocese) have a zoom prayer gathering for 30 minutes where we pray for all of the FoP in the Diocese of Buffalo. This takes place the third Wednesday of every month. The next one will be Wed. Feb. 15 from 1-1:30 PM. I invite you to come join us in prayer, click here for the link.

Begin the Year with a New Dose of Hope

Physicians tell us that the human body can survive four to six weeks without food, up to three days without water and for about 10 minutes without oxygen. How long can a human being survive without hope? Our own experience suggests that without hope the human spirit begins to die almost immediately. Even our bodies show signs of sagging when our horizons show no future or purpose. Read more.


Prayer against Human Trafficking

Loving Father,
We seek your divine protection for all who are exploited and enslaved.
For those forced into labor, trafficked into sexual slavery, and denied freedom.
We beseech you to release them from their chains.
Grant them protection, safety, and empowerment.
Restore their dignity and provide them a new beginning.
Show us how we might end exploitation by addressing its causes.
Help us reach out in support of victims and survivors of human trafficking.
Make us instruments of your spirit for their liberation. For this we pray through our Lord Jesus Christ, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever. Amen.

Living as Missionary Disciples

Why become Catholic?
Malcolm Buggeridge was born on March 24, 1903, and raised with no religion. He was an author, editor and media personality. In 1967 he conducted a television interview with Mother Teresa of Calcutta. She was instrumental in his decision to convert to Catholicism in 1982. She showed him the power of love and how it can have an effect on the entire world. She encouraged him to become like a child in God’s hand. Show others the power of love. (Taken from A Century of Catholic Converts, Lorene Hanley Duquin)

How to Celebrate Advent and Christmas as a Catholic

I’ll be Home for Christmas!
In a few weeks a number of inactive and unchurched people will walk through the doors of your Church. The regular attendees are often less than excited as they grumble about the lack of parking spaces, someone taking their “seat”, the noise and confusion.

Prepare your congregation now! Recommit all of the parishioners to be “Missionary Disciples”. Sprinkle them with holy water and remind them that “By virtue of Baptism we become ‘missionary disciples,’ called to bring the Gospel to the world (Evangelii Gaudium, n. 120). May Christmas be a point of encounter for all of us.

Some tips:
Be civil in the parking lot both coming and going.
Extend a warm welcome when seeing others.
Sit in the middle of the pew, encouraging others to join you.
Be sensitive to anyone who may not know what books to use, when to sit, stand, etc.
Introduce yourself after Mass.
Invite people to come back.
Welcome the latecomers and the babies crying.

Away in a Manger, No Crib for a Bed.
Over 89.3 million people have “no crib for their bed”. They have been forcibly displaced worldwide as a result of persecution, conflict, violence or human rights violations. As we approach the new year, let us recommit ourselves to the two feet of social justice charitable acts and social change.

We Three Kings
In Matthew 2:22 we read: “On coming to the house, they (the 3 Kings) saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him.” As people enter our houses this year may they too find Christ. On the feast of epiphany (the three kings), which is Friday, Jan. 6 take time to bless your house for 2023.

Other ideas:

Christmas Cards – Send religious Christmas cards with religious stamps.
Christmas letter – Don’t just fill it with news on how special your life has been this past year but remind everyone how special they are in the eyes of God. “For God so loved the world that he sent his Son.”
Decorations: Place lights in your windows as a reminder that Christ is the light of the world. Let people see your Christianity from the street.
Crèche: Give your nativity scene a place of honor in the home and gather around it to pray. Prayer for the blessing of the Crèche.
Learn about St. Nicholas (feast day Dec. 6)
Nicholas is an Advent saint. His job is to remind people of God’s generosity. God doesn’t just pass around toys or video games or aftershave. God gives the ultimate gift. God gave Jesus. Reflect on this dialogue between God and Santa (St. Nick).
Dec. 8: Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception. On this date we celebrate the conception of Mary in the womb of her mother, St. Ann. We know that 9 months from this date (Sept. 8 will be the birth of Mary). Attend Mass on this Holy Day of Obligation and pray for all women who are pregnant or hope to be.
Dec. 12: Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe. Mary, under this title is the patroness of the Americas. Pray for justice for all of God’s children, especially those of Hispanic descent.
Feast of the Holy Family (Dec. 30)
Create a photo Christmas tree. Gather pictures from photo albums: children, parents, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, godparents, etc. Mount pictures on various colors of heavy paper, punch hold, attach ribbon and tie around Christmas tree branch.
Baptism of the Lord (Jan. 8)
Celebrate your baptism. The Christmas season ends on this day.

Upcoming Event:

Inclusive Christmas Mass, Wednesday, December 28, 7:00 PM, St. Bernadette Parish, Orchard Park. They welcome families with special needs. The Mass will be interpreted in American Sign Language and will offer a shorter, less crowded worship setting allowing for freedom of movement as needed. The lighting will be dimmer, the music soothing and low-gluten hosts will be available. Questions may be directed to Sharon Urbaniak at 716-648-1720 ext. 3 or sharonu@saintbopny.org


If your parish ever did Alpha, please contact Sr. Louise Alff at lalff2@buffalodiocese.org. Thank you.

Prayer for Christmas

Come, Lord our God, and surround our feast day table as we delight in this joyous season of Christmas. Gift us in this meal with the taste of happiness as we savor this coming together of family and friends. As sparkling stars and singing angels rejoiced at the birth of the Christ Child in Bethlehem, so may we take great joy in this our Christmas dinner celebration. May You, our God, bless it and us in Your holy name. — Edward Hays

Christmas Chuckle, Reflections, Wishes
I stopped believing in Santa Clause when I was six. Mother took me to see him in a department store and he asked for my autograph. (Shirley Temple)
Christmas is a time when you get homesick, even when you’re home. (Carol Nelson)
The person who does not have Christmas in the heart will never find it under the tree. (Roy L. Smith)
May you go often to the Bethlehem of your heart and visit the One who offers you peace. May you bring this peace into our world. (Joyce Rupp)

Living as Missionary Disciples

Living as Missionary Disciples Newsletter

A practical newsletter with ideas, resources, special announcements, articles and more to help good parishes become a vibrant family of parishes.

November 15, 2022

Feast of Saint Albert the Great

Why become Catholic?

John Michael Talbot – recording artist and founder of the Franciscan Lay Community, Brothers and Sisters of Charity. A significant part of his conversion were the books given to him by those he respected: the Bible from his grandmother; the life of Francis of Assisi from a close friend; the writings of the early Church by a Franciscan mentor. He became Catholic is 1978. Share your spiritual books with others. (Taken from A Century of Catholic Converts, Lorene Hanley Duquin)

Missionary discipleship takes place within the context of evangelization and begins with an encounter with Christ.”

Living as Missionary Disciples (pg. 9)

Parish Idea: Tending the Seeds on the Road to Renewal (Practical Suggestions)

Promote the Bible.

  1. Establish Dec. 4 as Bible Sunday. Use this Sunday (or another Sunday) to encourage people to consider giving Bibles or Bible books as Christmas gifts. Display bibles and books that appeal to all ages. Have a typed sheet of stores, gift shops and websites where these products can be purchased. Don’t forget the American Bible Society and USCCB. Good translations are: New American Bible, New International Version, Good New.
  2. Starting now, challenge parishioners to read the bible The Bible in a Year.
  3. Begin to plan on offering Bible study or small groups based on scripture after the first of the year.
  4. Test your knowledge of the Infancy Narratives based on the Gospels of Luke and Matthew. One side of this sheet is taken from Luke’s Infancy Narratives (1-2:39). The other side is from Matthew’s Infancy Narratives (Chapter 1-2) Find ways to share this quiz with different groups. Refer to the scriptures to find the answers. (Careful! Some answers are tricky. Read the scriptures well. For example: Where did the 3 kings find Jesus? (Mt. 2:11) Where did Joseph come from? (Mt. 2:24).

Offer hope during the Holidays: Grief wears many faces. We grieve the death of a loved one, a pet, a loss of job, divorce, separation from children or grandchildren, a miscarriage, moving to an unfamiliar area, diminishment of health, and the list goes on. While we may think some losses are less painful than others they are dependent on the person experiencing the grief. As holidays approach emotional pain intensifies. We may wish we could go to sleep on Nov. 1 and wake up on January 1st. These feelings are all normal. Here are some positive things that you can do to prepare ourselves for the holiday. Share the richness of the Family of Parishes (FoP): For each Sunday of Advent ask some parishioners from one of the parishes (or 2 if your family is more than 4 parishes) to reflect on one of the themes of Advent: hope, peace, love and joy. For example – On the first Sunday of Advent, 10 people from parish A will finish this sentence: “A time I experienced hope was . . .” On the second Sunday, 10 people from parish B will finish this sentence: “ A time I experienced peace was . . .” Encourage them to be as personal as possible.

Everyday Evangelizing for Everyday Catholics

Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence. (1 Peter 3:15)

Everyday Evangelizing during the Holiday Season

  • Attend Mass on Thanksgiving Day
  • Pray with an advent wreath
  • Buy a gift for a needy family
  • Spend extra time in prayer
  • Display a nativity set
  • Spend some time serving others as a family (soup kitchen, food give-away, visit Nursing Home)
  • Send religious Christmas cards with religious stamps
  • Christmas letter – Refrain from writing how good your life has been, rather talk about how good God has been to you.

Do You Hear What I Hear? Program

In October we did a training session for 13 parishes to sponsor this Christmas event in their FoP. The following parishes have scheduled this event. Feel free to attend.

  • Family 6: St. George, West Falls. Sun. Dec. 4 at 2:00 pm.
  • Family 16: Ss. Peter and Paul, Williamsville. Tues. Nov. 29 at 6:30 pm.
  • Family 17: St. Stephen, Grand Island. Sat. Dec. 10 at 7:00 pm.
  • Family 31: Blessed Trinity, Buffalo, Sun. Dec. 4 at 2:00 pm.

Closing Thanksgiving Prayer

Lord, we thank you for the goodness of our people and for the spirit of justice that fills this nation. We thank you for the beauty and fullness of the land and the challenge of the cities. We thank you for our work and our rest, for one another, and for our homes. Accept our thanksgiving on this day. We pray and give thanks through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. (USCCB)

Closing Thanksgiving Wish

May your stuffing be tasty. May your turkey be plump. May your potatoes and gravy have nary a lump. May your yams be delicious and your pies take the prize, and may your Thanksgiving dinner stay off of your thighs! (author unknown)

Living as Missionary Disciples

“Helping Good Parishes become Vibrant Communities.”

Oct. 25, 2022

Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

Let us continue to create communities where those who have been renewed can find continued nourishment and strength in their journey of faith. (pg. 8)

Why become Catholic? 

Norma McCorey (aka Jane Roe of Roe vs. Wade). Norma’s mother tried to abort her when she was pregnant. Norma grew up in a stormy household and was raped by a male relative. Norma had a number of pregnancies and always gave the children up for adoption since she could not get a legal abortion. One major factor in her conversion was the unconditional love of a 7 year old girl (Emily) who invited Norma to go to Church with her. “Emily’s unconditional love eventually broke down Norma’s barriers.” She was baptized Catholic in Texas in 1998. Scripture says: And a little child shall lead them. (Isaiah 11:6) (Taken from A Century of Catholic Converts, Lorene Hanley Duquin)

Stepping Stones on the Road to Renewal: 

Ideas to assist you in becoming a Family of Parishes (FoP)

  • Exchange choirs; 
  • on the feast day of one parish, the other parishes host the reception; 
  • give a short history of the parishes in the bulletin; 
  • when a person dies in one parish, announce it in all of the parishes; 
  • invite anyone interested to a zoom call and break into groups sharing the question “Share what you love best about your parish?”  

Outdoor Nativity Set. Every Christmas we hear people bemoan the fact that Christ is being removed from Christmas. Why not ask every household to place a Nativity Set desplayed on  their front lawn. They range in price from $30 to well over a $100. As a FoP, encourage parishioners to accept the challenge – how many front lawns will display our belief at Christmas? Click here to view Nativity Sets.

Create a Wailing Wall in each parish. This idea is inspired by the Wailing Wall in Jerusalem (properly called the Western Wall of the Old Temple.) For generations people have put pieces of paper with prayers and petitions rolled up and inserted in the broken mortar between the bricks of the wall. The parish Wailing Wall serves the same purpose. (1) have cork board or space for people to tape needs, prayers and petitions so that all who pause before it may see, be moved and pray, or (2) a person might take a petition off the wall, keep it for a week and pray for the unknown writer whose heart is broken. Then you might initial it and put it back again so that the person who put it there originally may know that he or she is not alone; that someone gave comfort, sympathy, and concern. (3) Mention the wall aloud at the Universal Prayers. (4) Once a year (or more often) have Compassion Sunday as a way of clearing it off. At each Mass on the weekend have ritual where people gather a portion of the petitions and bring them forward in quiet process to be placed in a container and burned. As a FoPs you could remember the intentions on each other’s boards when the community prays. (Taken from The Total Parish Manual)

Everyday Evangelizing for Everyday Catholics 

Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence. (1 Peter 3:15)

Everyday Evangelizing through Social Justice   

  • Share your time, talent or money.
  • Identify your own prejudices.
  • Be guided by Scripture.
  • “See” the world through the lens of faith.
  • Learn all aspects of a social issue.
  • Publicly express your opinion.
  • Speak and act on your conviction.
  • Learn and address the values of our government.
  • Vote with an informed conscience.

Two events to strengthen your Family of Parishes: Living the Mission God Gave Us! Tuesday, Nov. 8, 1:00 – 2:30. St. Leo the Great Parish. This workshop will present pastors and pastoral leaders with concrete ways to think about their parishes in terms of mission. It will focus on the practical realities of transitioning into a FoPs and propose a plan to assure that our vision as parish continues to center on the mission that God gave us. Presentation by Fr. Frank DeSianoClick here for more information and registering.  

 Lent 2023 – Offer the Life in the Eucharist Retreat. One of the core areas in the Road to Renewal is to offer opportunities to revitalize our personal and communal appreciation of the Real Presence in the Eucharist. Life in the Eucharist is a 5 session retreat experience to empower Catholics to deepen their personal and communal relationship with Jesus Christ. It has 5 specific themes that explores the Eucharistic mystery. The 5 themes are:  Nourishment, Reconciliation, Transformation, Abiding

Presence and Mission. This Fall we will be offering a training session in 2 different locations that will enable parishes to put on the Life in the Eucharist retreat within their FoPs. Click here for more information

Closing Prayer:

We give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.

Living as Missionary Disciples

Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

One way to ensure that our parishes are true communities of evangelization, is for the whole parish to undertake a process of discernment to evaluate current pastoral ministry and outreach programs. (pg. 4)

Why become Catholic? 

John Wayne (actor). 1907-1979. John was baptized on his deathbed. During his life he was deeply influenced by his deep friendship with fellow actor, John Ford who was a devote Catholic. Never underestimate your influence on your friends.   (A Century of Catholic Converts, Lorene Duquin)

Stepping Stones on the Road to Renewal. 

The only person who enjoys change is a baby with a wet diaper! Yet, all of us are asked to embrace change as we embark on a journey that is uncertain and uncharted. Let’s take it slowly, allowing the Spirit to lead us. Here are some ideas to assist you in becoming a Family of Parishes.   

All Saints Day:  Know the Saints in your Family of Parishes (FoPs). 
Each church in the FoPs has a certain name. Research the saint behind the name and put the information in each other’s bulletin. Consider visiting each other’s church and pointing out all of the saints that are part of the worship space. Why do these particular saints adorn your church? Was it a Franciscan Parish? Started by the Polish community? Jesuit saints? Ex. St. Martin de Porres has a beautiful stained glass window with symbols on the life of St. Martin. This is a great way to appreciate the beauty and history of each other’s spiritual home. 

Advent: Taizé prayer. 

We often heard the Catholic adage was “The family that prays together, stays together.” What better way to bring the FoPs together than to prayer together. Consider doing Taizé prayer in your FoPs during Advent. It is easy to organize. One participant said: “To say Taizé prayer is spiritual doesn’t begin to describe the service. It’s peace, it’s comfort, it’s home. You really belong.” Taizé prayer is like a sacred pause. 

Taizé is a form of prayer started in a small village named Taizé in France. It was created as an ecumenical experience but any parish can do it. Here is a simple outline but you can adapt to your own FoPs. People enter the church in silence. A greeter offers them a candle and a guide to the service. For the next hour, they will join together in a Taizé prayer service that includes Taizé songs, silence, and Scripture. The songs are simple and repetitive. This can be followed by a psalm and an Alleluia. All the candles are lighted and there is a reading from Scripture based on the liturgical season. People come forward to place their candles in clay pots around the altar. There is a period of silence. During this time, the lighted candles and several icons or an empty manger provide a visual focus. The group then prays a Kyrie for peace and reconciliation. The leader offers general intercessions to which the community responds in song, and the service closes with a sign of peace. As a FoPs you could move it around every week to a different parish. (An example of Taizé music is the song: “Jesus remember me when you come into your kingdom”. Click here to learn more about Taizé prayer https://www.Taizé.fr/en_article337.html    and Taizé music

(Idea taken from Great Ideas from Great Parishes)

 Lent 2023 – Offer the Life in the Eucharist Retreat. One of the core areas in the Road to Renewal is to offer opportunities to revitalize our personal and communal appreciation of the Real Presence in the Eucharist. 

Life in the Eucharist is a 5 session retreat experience to empower Catholics to deepen their personal and communal relationship with Jesus Christ. It has 5 specific themes that explores the Eucharistic mystery. The 5 themes are:  Nourishment, Reconciliation, Transformation, Abiding Presence and Mission.  Through the Eucharist, Jesus invites us to a deep experience of all of these aspects. 

This Fall we will be offering a training session in 2 different locations that will enable parishes to put on the Life in the Eucharist retreat within their FoPs. Click here for more information

Everyday Evangelizing for Everyday Catholics 

Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence. (1 Peter 3:15)

Everyday Evangelizing in all Situations (for bulletin and social media) 

  • Wear a cross or other symbol of your faith.
  • Be sensitive to people around you.
  • Ask people to pray for your intentions.
  • Gently start a discussion with “I believe” or “Jesus says”.
  • Absorb violence rather than spreading it.
  • Invite to church those who are not part of a faith community.
  • Make the sign of the cross at restaurants. 
  • Treat everyone with dignity.
  • Post a religious message on social media.
  • Welcome the stranger in the neighborhood.
  • Leave religious materials in unexpected places. 

Coming Soon – don’t miss this event – mark your calendar: Living the Mission God Gave Us! Tuesday, Nov. 8, 1:00 – 2:30. St. Leo the Great Parish. This workshop will present pastors and pastoral leaders with concrete ways to think about their parishes in terms of mission. It will focus on the practical realities of transitioning into a FoPs and propose a plan to assure that our vision as parish continues to center on the mission that God gave us. Presentation by Fr. Frank DeSianoClick here for more information and registering.  

Last thought . . . Church sign. 

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Living as Missionary Disciples

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Quote from Living as Missionary Disciples

Jesus gives us a model for becoming missionary disciples. “Come and see”, “Follow me”, “Remain in me”, “Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations.” That is summed up in these 4 words: encounter, accompany, community and send. (pg. 9)

Parish Ideas


  • Center ministry on scripture: “Do not neglect hospitality, for through it some have unknowingly entertained angels.” (Heb. 13:2)
  • Wear name-tags
  • Arrive early
  • Don’t neglect your post
  • Extend a warm welcome
  • Make eye-contact
  • Introduce yourself
  • Ask the person their first name and use it in responding
  • Invite them to sign a guest book
  • Introduce guest to some parishioners
  • Stand at the walkways of the church
  • Hold the church doors open
  • Have umbrellas handy for sudden storms and walk people to or from their cars
  • Have reserved parking for “first-time” guests
  • At the end of mass return to post and thank people for attending
  • If your task is to find volunteers to bring up the gifts invite people who are sitting alone

Everyday Evangelizing for Everyday Catholics

Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence. (1 Peter 3:15)

  • Everyday Evangelizing in the Parish
  • Introduce yourself to those you don’t know.
  • Periodically change pews to meet others.
  • Sit in the middle of the pews – it’s an invitation to invite others to sit with you.
  • Be gracious in the parking lot.
  • Explain the Mass and the rituals to those who are not familiar with the Catholic faith.
  • Send a card to a child making first communion or someone being confirmed.
  • If a baptism is at Mass – go up to the family after Mass, introduce yourself and congratulate the family.
  • Support parish leaders.
  • Get involved, if only on a small scale.
  • Invite someone to attend a parish function with you.
  • At parish gatherings: Look around to those who are standing or sitting alone and invite them to join you.

Christmas is only 3 months away.

Last chance to sign up for:  Do You Hear What I Hear?   

You will be trained, and given all of the materials to implement this 90 minute fun filled, educational, high-spirited gathering in your parish or in your family of parishes. We will use the sounds and symbols of Christmas in a simple and creative way to invite people to experience the full meaning of some of our cherished Christmas carols.

The training will be: Saturday, October 1, Blessed Trinity – St. Charles Hall. 9 – 11 AM. (Blessed Trinity is located at 317 Leroy Avenue, Buffalo, NY 14214). 

Cost: $10 per person or $30 for the “family of parishes” To register: contact Sr. Louise at lalff2@buffalodiocese.org or call 716-847-5585. 

Last thought…

Dear God, let me be as good as my dog thinks I am.